'You totally bombed that social interaction': Employee tells coworker on last day that they are not friends

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    Font - AITA- Am I the hole for making a coworker upset when I corrected her that we were just "coworkers" and not "friends"? Kind of a weird post but it just happened so I want to know if I'm the hole. I just left a job that I had for over 2 years. During that time I had come to like many of my coworkers but I didn't consider them to be friends as, in my opinion, friends are people who you hang out with and are able to text/ call out of the blue. I understand that my opinion of "friend" may not
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    Font - On my last day at work, a former coworker of my mine kept saying they would miss me and kept referring to me as their friend. I reminded them that while I enjoy their company at work, I don't consider us to be friends. They were confused as they thought we were.
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    Font - I reminded them that every time I asked them to hang out outside of work, they would say no and would give reasons that ranged from understandable to one's that were, well obvious that they didn't want to hang out with me. I soon realized that maybe we weren't going to be friends and that I had a coworker that was a colleague who I could talk to during work hours. I let them know that I only consider people my friend if I hang out with them outside of work. They tried to laugh it off as i
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    Font - My coworker got quiet and didn't continue the conversation. They then called me an hole for making them upset. I was confused as it was a cordial conversation. Am I the hole for making my coworker upset that I didn't consider them a friend?
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    Font - Edit: I forget that sometimes I don't write out what I'm thinking. Just for clarification, the reason I said I did not see us a friends was because this person would go out and hang out with other people from the office and would tell me about it during lunch. Whenever I would ask to hang out it would always be a polite, no thank you. And that is fine. That would make us just coworkers. Maybe I am being petty. Coincidentally, I also have friends that I hang out with outside of work from t
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    Font - friedonionscent You know, you don't always have to say what you think or know to be true if it's of no 14 hr. ago consequence. If you talk about non work related things at work, is 'friend' that much of a stretch? A good friend of mine was never able to hang out outside of work...we worked together for years but never saw each other outside of that 9-5. Turns out she had a controlling and abusive partner and our friendship at work was the only one she really had.
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    Font - If someone themselves 'overweight' do you have to correct them and say they're calls technically obese? Not really. Let some things slide. 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - quietlycommenting 14 hr. ago YTA - Sorry but do you have the habit of just not letting things go and moving on? was it necessary to humiliate them again when they tried to save face and you specified you weren't joking? Ultimately this comes down to someone trying to say something nice to you and you hurting their feelings. 1.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Too Much_To_Do2020. 14 hr. ago YTA for unnecessarily, telling your coworker off like that. If this was in public, it would have been incredibly embarrassing for your coworker. You should've just let it go and gone off into the sunset.
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    Font - I have people at work who I consider work friends, but not personal friends. I've even had coworkers I became friends with after leaving the office, but not while I was there.
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    Font - For all, you know that coworker could've been turning you down to hang out because they had personal problems. It's within your rights to tell this person that they aren't your friend but would it hurt long term for you to just nod and never see them again? 536 Reply Share
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    Font - Talyax 14 hr. ago . What exactly you gained by correcting her? You left your job as hole in their eyes. You could leave it be, let her talk and move on. Wouldn't change your life, someone was just thinking good of you, considering you as a friend. I think it's YTA. 383 Reply Share
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    Font - BitchInBoots66 14 hr. ago YTA. It was completely unnecessary. You're not an hole for thinking it, but saying it was an hole move. And after reading the comments I'm shocked how many people think that's acceptable. It sounds like you were just being petty because you think she snubbed you, it's not a good look. 247 Reply Share
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    Font - NeoNachtwaechter. 14 hr. ago Your last day there. You don't intend to see them again forever. You 'correct them' on an issue that has no consequences. You even insist repeatedly. That's pathetic behaviour. No wonder it got them upset. YTA 180 Reply Share
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    Font - rhymes_with_mayo . 13 hr. ago You totally bombed that social interaction. Nobody is gonna remember your extremely precise take on a common concept (friendship), but they will remember how rude you were completely out of the blue. Your coworker is probably wondering what on earth they did wrong to make you so upset at them. Depressingly, the answer is nothing. You got so caught up in your own head you seem to have forgotten the other person, who was simply trying to let you know they appre
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    Font - Perhaps being directly told someone insignificant to you likes and appreciates you made you uncomfortable and you lashed out. It's a bad look and you would do well to learn to control that behavior, if you want to be respected. Just smile and say thanks next time. YTA. 137 Reply Share
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    Font - quasimidge 9 hr. ago Is it true? Yes Is it necessary? Not in the slightest Is it kind? Definitely not. YTA
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    Font - small_monster_ . 7 hr. ago NTA. So you made multiple attempts to hang out after work and got every excuse in the book thrown at you but your the AH for not considering her a friend? And then she gets to feel all good about herself being such a good friend after you've left? Nah I hope she feels bad, I absolutely hate fake people, and they deserve to be called out for it, none of this "you don't have to say what your thinking" bull good on you OP, you are certainly not the AH

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